Observing Communication

The place that I observed a parent and child was at a gas station. The child was about 7 years old and seem to be very used to getting his way. The child wanted some candy and kept going over to the rack and picking it up. The parent took the candy away and told the child that they could not have it because they was going home to have dinner. The child start to cry and stomp his feet. Everyone started looking at them and you could tell that the parent was becoming embarrassed, she finally purchased the candy and took the child back to the car. This was not very good at all because the parent should have made a point of letting the child know that just because he cry and stomp his feet that he cannot get everything that he wants. According this article,  "Do not reward your child's tantrum by giving in. This will only prove to your little one that the tantrum was effective. Instead, verbally praise a child for regaining control. Also, kids may be especially vulnerable after a tantrum when they know they've been less than adorable. Now (when your child is calm) is the time for a hug and reassurance that your child is loved, no matter what."(Heath, 2010).  "Effective parent-child communication is the basis of positive parent-child interactions and high self-esteem in children. Furthermore, effective communication between parents and children prevents problematic behavior and helps children understand how to interact effectively with others.(kidshealth, 2014). If this parent learn how to communicate effectively this child will go up to be a very productive adult.

References
Effective Communication with Children | Education.com retrieved on September 20, 2014 from
http://www.education.com/reference/article/effective-parent-child-communication/

Temper Tantrums - KidsHealth retrieved on September 20, 2014 from
kidshealth.org/parent/emotions/behavior/tantrums.html

Creating Affirming Environments

For my family care home, I would have everything needed to make sure that my surrounding is completely suited to everyone.  The definition of a family care provider " is a person who uses their residence to provide paid child care on a regular, ongoing basis. Children are brought to the caregiver's home for care (vs. a caregiver who goes to the child's home to provide care).(www.about.com, 2014.) My house will consist of everything from books that depicts stories about different races and cultures to stories of struggles, triumphs, and tragedy, so that kids can learn about and be proud of their heritage. We would play music from different countries and watch different types of movies and videos that teach different languages for the kids to learn. We will have fun by playing with dolls, coloring pictures, doing plays to the girls and boys will enjoy. No one will be made to play with different types of toys according to their age or sex. If a boy want to play with a doll, he can and if a girl want to play with a car, she can without feeling like they will be teased or ridiculed. We will play, laugh, sing, dance, read, build and talk about whatever we are feeling. My house will feel like their house and no one will ever be made to feel like and outsider. In my family care home, everyone is family.

References
What is a Family Child Care Provider? - About
childcare.about.com  › In-Home Child Care